To all the ignorant people in the world

NO! They are NOT dangerous and Autism is NOT contagious! So stop judging and stop giving Children or adults with Autism weird looks and stares!

When you are looking and judging them with that "thought" in your head, we are looking and judging you at how RUDE you really are.

Please, to all the ignorant people out there, autism is NOT contagious. Your "normal" child would not catch "it" so do NOT pull your children away just because there is an Autistic child in the playground as well. You are sooooooo gXX - damn RUDE.

Just so you know they process, think and feel like an individual.
Learn to educate yourself, this is already the 21st century!

Read this article from the link, from an Autistic child.


http://blog.theautismsite.com/autism-not-bad/?utm_source=aut-autaware&utm_medium=social-fb&utm_term=021516&utm_content=link&utm_campaign=autism-not-bad&origin=aut_autaware_social_fb_link_autism-not-bad_021516

Something to share on "Whats next?"

Hi Guys,

Click on the link to check out Autism Speaks Staffer Kerry Magro's talk on TEDXTALK on "Autism, what happens to children when they become adults?"

“It’s a lifelong disorder. Our kids are growing up, and we have to be ready for them. When they transition to adulthood questions that arise are things such as…will my child be able to find a job? Will my child be able to go to college? Will my child be able to find supports after they age out of school? Will my child be able to live independently or need a group home? Will my child be supported financially? Will my child be able to find love one day? And finally…Will my family take care of my child when I’m gone?”

Im sure many parents, infact all parents have this question running through their head and this is the utmost question we ask ourselves every single day whilst watching our children grow up. 

https://www.autismspeaks.org/news/news-item/inspiring-talk-answers-039what-will-happen-my-child-when-i039m-gone039

Independence is priceless

Recently, Zyon has been showing signs that he is a big boy. 

Making decisions like when he wants to shower, what he wants from the fridge. 

Cleanliness has always been quite systematic for Zyon at home. More like when is it time to shower was originally decided by the adults, me when I'm at home. All i had to do was watch the time and tell him "Zyon, its time to shower! Grab your towel!!" And you will see my baby no matter what he is doing at that time or which part of the house he happens to be in, running to grab his towel and head towards the toilet. 

But now, without anyone saying anything, he walks straight to the toilet, takes off all his clothes and close the door. Before you know it, the sound of splashing water comes on. Not just because he feels warm, but basically I'm guessing it's because of his own personal hygiene. Why do i say this? Because even if he just showered half an hour ago, he would still proceed to shower again if he went to poop. 

Honestly speaking, i feel so proud of him. Its like he is beginning to grab hold of the fact that he has a choice. That he can make choices. Even if it is as simple as deciding himself when he wants to take a shower. Of course the crazy old ladies at home made it seem like its another troublesome issue/ phase Zyon is having because although he knows that he wants a shower but technically he is not able to shower himself just yet, hence it is something that requires assistance from the adults. They just thought he was being "naughty" and troublesome. 

If you have been following my blog you should know that I'm a mother that doesn't very much constrict my children. So i told Zyon what he did was right and I'm so very proud of him. Irregardless of whether it is troublesome or not, in my point of view, my son is showing signs of independence! 

I Cant be More PROUD!!

I held onto him, hugged him tight and look at his face to get his attention, and i told him,

"Mommy is so proud of you! Well done! You are a big boy now :)! Well done!!!"

His reaction to me, though short but sweet. He looked at me with eye contact, smiled then ran off to his books. 

Although I'm not exactly supported by family members who thinks i "condone" my son to doing whatever he wants and likes and i drown him in love. But really, is it? 

I do not deny that i do give him what he wants but it also depends on what exactly is it that he wants! Though not many people don't think in that way. 

Today in this society, many parents are more concerned with adherence to social convention than the progress their children are making. And i do not support that. 

YES, we all want our children to be "normal" like all the other children you see. But honestly what exactly is "normal"? How do you define normal? Doing the same things like everyone is doing? 

Mr A sleeps at 9 am and wakes up at 9pm, seeing this, Mr B does the same thing. Then came Mr C, D,E,F,G etc etc. Then are we to conclude that sleep time from 9am to 9 pm is the "normal"? Thats rubbish. I know the earth doesn't just belong to 1 person. I know the society is created and works in a way that it is able to accommodate to everyone from all over the world. But really? Do i want to follow suit just so i may be accepted as part of the society? That is my only way? To prove my worth in existing? 

Reluctantly and very Sadly, yes.

But i still want to make a difference. Because sometimes i do believe strongly that "you could still want something that is very unlikely to happen, happen". 

I can't change the world, i don't want to. Im not a saint neither can i force anyone to do anything just because i think it is right.  Because everybody in the world speaks their own kind of language, live by their own rules. 

But at least i can make a difference for my son. Im building his foundation. I am preparing his future. I believe in building the right foundation, come rain or shine, he will never fall. 

Autism isn't a fault. Its a variant. it's potentially a major advantage. It is associated with organisation, focus, innovative thinking and rational detachment. Isn't all these points what we all aim to achieve? what we all strive so hard everyday to achieve? 

But my son already achieved it. He is only 6. And he will only be much more evolved than his peers. The world is too slow for Autism. 

Don't ever be happy because you are normal. Normal is nothing. Whether or not you are able to do something or achieve something in your life makes no difference to anyone. Whether or not you exist, the earth still spins. 

But Autism, they take in every single bit of this world and create using all of it. This is something us "normal" people can't do. 

don't you think? 

Communication device gives me hopes

http://blog.theautismsite.com/angrykreedcommunicates/?utm_source=social&utm_medium=autaware-paid&utm_campaign=angrykreedcommunicates&utm_term=20141125

Dear all parents with kids that is on the spectrum.... take a look at the video i shared 😊 if u r thinking of whether or not to get a device, this is awesomely helpful~~~~

E for Eye

Im so happy and i couldnt wait to wanting to tell all of u out there what zyon "told" me.

YEAH U SAW THAT ALRIGHT, ZYON "TOLD" ME!!!!!!!!!

Yesterday night my little boy held,my hand and swung it back and front and so suddenly he stopped, looked at me in the eye and said,

"A b c d e" and points to his eye.

Get it??

E stands for Eye!!!!!!!!

Im so proud.... zyzy never fails to surprise mommy everytime..... #^_^ <3

a blog to share

http://sg.news.yahoo.com/blogs/mrbrown/turning-twelve-090136439.html#more-id


The above link is to a blog from mrbrown. I teared when i read this post, not becos its sad but its so so beautiful..... read it!!!!!

stressed about the kind of school to send your child to when there are so little options

Hi there, i was browsing around and came across this website giving advice on what kind of school you can prepare your child who is diagnosed with autism at ages 3 onwards (aka preschool).

Q: can i send my child to an ordinary preschool?
A: http://autism.about.com/od/childrenandautism/f/typicalpreschoo.htm

Q: should i send my child to a preschool or have them stay at home?
A: http://autism.about.com/od/childrenandautism/a/preschoolhub.htm
http://autism.about.com/od/childrenandautism/f/homepreschooler.htm

Q: should my child attend an autism preschool?
A: http://autism.about.com/od/childrenandautism/f/autismpreschool.htm

Q: How to find a preschool for your child with autism
A: http://autism.about.com/od/childrenandautism/ht/findpreschool.htm

you can understand more on autism at this webpage:

http://autism.about.com/od/autismandthelaw/u/lifeonspectrum.htm#s2

every child is special in their own way, dont be ashamed just because your child was born with autism or any other kind of disablility, dont label your own child. Your child needs your support. I know it can be difficult especially when you bring your child who is not like any other average kids out to the mall or a diner and people starts looking at you "in a way" , take a deep breathe and smile back, let all ridicule and insults turn into a joke back at the person, people who understands the real meaning of life will treat you and your child with respect. Your child is what thats important. Face this challenge and you will realize you are blessed.

god bless you :) cheers!

My special son

My son was born on 15th november 2009.

He was a healthy baby and born through c-section due to me being very afraid of child birth pains. (Dun judge me, everyone has their own fears)

Baby Zy was a gift and when i first saw him, i told myself that i would give this baby everything in the world. ~  I guess thats how all parents feel when they first saw this beautiful stranger aka baby ~

I made sure everything in the house is cleaned and properly sanitized especially with this additional new member that completes my life with the word "Family". Now that he is here, all our time and attention was just soley on our new baby.

Due to certain circumstances, we moved a couple of times and each and everytime we'll try our best to gve baby zy the best and eventually we settled down in a neighbouring country where my husband was born. Baby Zy was growing up day by day and his facial expressions from just smiling started to become giggles and laughters, even his screams were getting louder when he throws a tantrum! He was the cutest little boy in my eyes.. When he first called me "mama" i was soooo happy, and tears welled up in my eyes! i was so sensitive and easily touched by every little thing my baby did! He was well and happy. However, my baby was very afraid of strangers and he will wail and scream everytime somebody comes over to say hello or make comments about how adorable he is. i thought maybe it was becos he was the only baby at home and he havent been with strangers around him and its normal for him to have fears and anxieties, hence i wasnt worried in any way. On his 1st birthday, we brought him for a haircut and threw him a birthday bash with an elmo cake with lots of sesame street character cupcakes! It was a great birthday and i was a proud mother!!! My son turned 1!!!


All was well and different babies have different characters and personalities so even though baby zy wasnt making too much noise or blabberings i just thought my baby is just a quiet baby thats all. But i made an attempt to check with his PD "why is my baby not talking and walking yet"? Only to get the answer "he's still young, its alright, give him more time :)" Im not a PD, i didnt take medical studies and im defintely not a doctor. I was a first time mother!  A newbie. (So naturally i chose to believe whatever the doctor says cos that is a professonal) A few months passed and at 16 months my baby took his first step!! i cried!!! it was the most beautiful scene.. and i taped it down like all first time mothers, called everyone in my family to tell them my baby just took his first step and announced it on facebook like a crazy woman!!

Then i realised, my baby stopped callng "mama" and he would keep so quiet that i thought its weird. But then again i had friends who's kids are same age as my baby and they too havent started talking and so i thought its not that weird. But then again i checked with his PD and only to get the answer "boys are usually slower than girls, no worries, give him more time." Upon hearing this i decided my son needs more time.

Baby zy loves to watch tv and when im doing my chores, usually i would just switch on his favourite channel and hurry to finish my chores, and usually he gets so engrossed in it and i end up watching it with him. I began learning the songs, the dances and the actions and try to do it with him, he just watches me smile and laughs like "mommy is a clown". I get him flashcards, cut out alphabets from clothes and plastics to create different textures, sing nursery rhymes and dances for him, he was always laughing and happy.

But of cos life isnt all laughter and happiness there are times where i lost my patience with him when he wakes up in the night and refuses to sleep, or when he throws tantrums, scream and cries.. i've even smacked him on his butt becos i feel that there are diapers so at least its not that hurting and of cos i use my hands. (dun judge me im just only human and theres only so much emotions i can control). My baby was growing up day by day and im begining to feel that he is lonely.. maybe he's so quiet becos he is lonely~ and so baby no.2 came along. I was pregnant and to know that theres another baby coming really made me and my husband excited! My baby zy is gonna have a playmate. His very own sister and he's going to be a big brother.

I had to stay in the hospital for 3 days due to my delivery and that was the 1st time my boy had to separate from me. And everyday my husband would bring him to the hospital to visit me. He came the first day really happy to see my face annd was so reluctant to go home when daddy said it was time to go.. i cried... couldnt sleep the whole time thinking of my baby boy, yeah im the one with the separation anxiety not him. Then on the second day, it turned out that my little boy remembered the way to the hospital and ran straight ahead of his daddy toward my room and surprised me!! I knew he was coming but came running into my room first made me so touched! Its like "awe my baby missed me!!!" and i tried my best to hug him but becos i just had a c section done i couldnt carry him so hugging was the best i could do. The whole time he sat on my bed and stayed close to me i know that my son missed me and of cos i missed him too, even without words our communicating ways were known in each other's heart. And again he didnt wanna go back home without me, before he left he grabbed my hand indicating wanting me to go along and i explained to him "mommy has to stay in the hospital and will be home soon alright? i love you so so much" and i cried again.... went thru the night without any sleep. Finally it was time to go home, he was so happy to see me and curious about his new baby sister too! I was so afraid that he might get jealous and thinks that becos of the new baby mommy is not giving her full attention, so i practically didnt let go of him if i had the chance and i continued to shower and feed him talking and telling him the baby is his sister.


A few months later my boy turned 2 and this year , my husband and i decided that we'll bring him out to dinner and a trip to the amusement park and let him have as much fun as possible, and we bought a mickey mouse cake and a study table with alphabets and numbers in magnet form whereby he can stick onto the white board that comes with it. He was still not talking but he understands everythng we told him and taught him, mimics the dances he sees on tv and blabbers baby language. Also his interaction with strangers and other people were getting better. We checked with his PD again, and still got the answer "boys r usually slower than girls , but if u r really worried maybe u can send him to a speech therapist for an evaluation?" At this point, everyone thinks i was crazy, and nobody listened to me when i said something is not right somewhere and everyone agrees that he may just be a slow bloomer, dont pressurize him and he will talk eventually "the who-so-ever's child didnt talk till he was 4, the other didnt talk till he was 7...."etc. And for a moment i thought i really was thinking too much.

Some people then suggested us to send him to a preschool to mix with children his own age so that he would have friends and start talking (even though zy goes to the playgound often but he didnt like playing wth kids his own age, he prefer the bigger children and he would chase after them to play, but he was small and big kids dun play with small kids so..... it all ends up me n daddy playing with him. he tends to ignore his peers). So we found a preschool for him ad deided to send him there since its an international school and such schools have all sorts of events for kids and it'll be fun to have playmates. But things werent what we expected. My boy first went to school happily and everything was new, he was the only child that wasnt crying over the environment and the other crying kids did not affect him at all. After 2 weeks he started crying and refuse to go to school. I pick him up myself everyday and checked with the teacher on his progress only to get the answer "he's very good!! but he's not talking and tends to be by himself but he is improving!". And every morning when we send zy to school,  as soon as we reached the traffic light that leads to the road to the school he starts crying and when i pick him up from school, he cries too a month went by and teachers were saying "he's improving, very good!" etc.. One day as soon as we dropped him off at school, the principal called me on my mobile asking if i could turn back and take zy home becos he wouldnt stop crying. My first thought was "absurd" what did you mean take him home just becos he was crying? What i really wanted to hear was "can u come to the school becos zy is crying, maybe we can sit down and talk about the situation and see what we can do together to solve this problem". Not simply "pls take him home becos he is crying and its affecting the other children." (Just so you know i was still checking with the teacher everyday and all she said was "very good he is improving!!!") So straightaway i went down to his school and took him home let him stay home for a couple of days and brought him to school again, he cried so i decided i will take him out. Maybe he wasnt ready. The principal of that school had the cheek to tell me "maybe he isnt ready yet, brng him back in 2 months time he might be well again!" and i told her straight, "its ok i dont think we'll do that." 

I happened to run into the teacher's aide on the street one day and she told me she was very close to my boy and he depended alot on her, the teacher had no patience with him and left him alone to cry and refuse to do anything so he practically was alone and when he cling on to the teacher's aide, the teacher would send her off to another class telling her she shouldnt be letting him depend on her like that. And they would stand there and gossip saying "this boy got problem, dont talk..etc." When i heard this i was shocked!!! How could they treat my son this way??? so i called their headquarters and complained. They of cos apologized , but whats done cannot be undone... Zy stopped crying cos he doesnt have to go back to that horrible school. And as for me.... once bitten twice shy.. i had doubts abt ever sending him to school!! Then my husband said to me, i will have to let go becos my son is growing up, i cant possibly keep him by my side forever, so we started school hunting again after 3 months.

The new school is great. Better than what we expected! First, they have an all surround online cctv where u can use the internet and see what ur child is doing in school everyday and plus they have parties every month! Whats most important was my baby boy made very good progress and cant wait to go to school everyday! He loves his teacher and she loves him too, even though he still isnt talking yet but his blabbering is more and now he is even trying to sound out alphabets in phonics!!! Also, he's started to mix with his peers and dance in class and his teacher tries to have one on one sessions with hijm just teaching him new words everyday! I am totally impressed with the school and really glad that there are teachers who believes in "teaching with passion".

However, even though my boy has made such a big progress, we find that he doesnt know how to express himself well and he still hasnt really talked yet. This time around i decided to ignore everyone and proceed to bring my child for an autism assessment.