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seeing my baby girl at 1, understanding so many different words in her colorful board books i realized all these my baby boy didnt go through when he was at her age. Well it is true that girls mature faster than boys but because i was a first time mom when i had zyon, i didnt know that "this" was what he was supposed to be doing at age 1.
This proves that all along there were signs that my little boy was different but i thought it was "growing up".
However, lookng at my little boy now, he is so affectionate and so loving... so close to me... and i feel that nothing matters more than him being happy. He will not be bothered that he cant catch up with friends, he will not think whats cool and whats uncool among those kids when they are comparing, he will just do what he wants and be happy. And he will always be happy. Thats what all parent wanted isnt it? For your child to be happy and live life to their fullest doing whatever they like..
Looking at parents feeling the need that their child should be reaching their "milestones" somehow i feel it makes the child stressful. Issues like"oh shouldnt he be talking by now? oh shouldnt he be sayng sentences by now? oh, shouldnt he be doing this, imitating that, expressing himself, potty trained." And things like "according to the book he should be reaching this milestone, that milestone..."etc etc. Even though i am a parent myself, i feel for the "little people". When they were born, they start learning and facing pressure. Things like talking, using the cutleries, crawling, walking, making friends, going to school, learn, memorize their names and names of family members, perform dance or singing like they're animals in the zoo and have manners the society created called "civilization".
How would you feel if people are saying "oh you should be reaching this grade, that grade, oh you should be working in this job and not that, oh you should be finding this type of wife/ husband, oh you should be earning this amount of money, oh you should be doing this or that..." etc etc.??? you would end up feeling frustrated and get upset isnt it??
Who says that when taking a picture, the child has to look at the camera and say "cheeze" or freeze and smile till the pic is taken? Who says that the child has to keep quiet in a diner when the family is having dinner? who says that it is a must for the child to understand how to behave in different places? If your child speaks like an adult, understands his or her place in the society, behaves very well outdoors be it in the mall or any public area, congratulations. You have a bright and intelligent child. But for those who's child cannot behave themselves in public areas, scream and shout , dont look at the cameras when asked to take a picture, runs off when asked to meet "strangers" they first met..etc etc, all i wanna say is "hey, you are not alone." This is defintely not a case of bad parenting. But of cos if you really didnt teach your child, or have certain control then "its your issue" *coughs* but to those who already taught, and the child still acts like that, there MUST be a reason. And dont pull all the blame to yourself first, sometimes kids act the way they do its because they are feeling the pressure. They cant express themselves properly hence they act that way.
My son never looks at the camera unless he feels like it. My son never greets relatives or our friends when he sees them. My son screams and shouts at dining areas, malls and other public places when he is upset about something. You think he's a monster?
You dont know him.
He doesnt look at the camera because he doesnt like it. He never greets relatives or our friends when he sees them because he hasnt started verbal communication. He screams at dining areas becos he doesnt like whats on his plate and wants other kind of food. He screams in malls and other public places because he wants to stay longer but we said we had to leave, thus he has to leave too.
My son hugs and kisses me when he wakes up. My son picks up rubbish from the floor when he sees them lying around and throws them into the rubbish bin. My son cleans his sister's nose when he thinks its dirty. My son takes his own bath towel and goes to shower when i tell him its time to shower. My son puts down the things that i said he shouldnt be touching immediately when i told him to.
My son never met his milestone of his age. But sweet moments and gestures he portrays erased all the "he-should-but-didnt-do" away.
That is my special son.
Next time if you so happen to see a child behaving badly in public areas, dont judge him/ her or their parents yet. You dont know the full story. Leave all your judging judging your own life first.
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